Dating someone with an ostomy
So far, it's been slow, but steady progress and I give myself at least another 2-4 months before I will feel I am okay with everything. i was asked out by a friend to go for a walk after my know about my my bag.I know we are all different, but Jo don't give yourself short shrift in the patience department. Its been 2 years since my colostomy and 14 years since I divorced and I still have not been on a date. So I think it is wonderful that you have out yourself out there. we have become very good friends over the last few months.We made it official that we were boyfriend, girlfriend in December.
and sitting at the bar flirting with the female bartender will work as long as you are a good tipper. I need to sit with that for awhile and learn to love what is, to understand what is, and to be comfortable and confident with what is.It's hard and sometimes feels crummy, but I surely do hope you have quietly faced what your body and life have become and perhaps it's made you stronger. Just remember you are more than just the bag you are wearing. Maybe just go out for coffee or casual date so you get more comfortable with wearing the bag. we deceded to have a weekend togather....i was so nervous..morning before our date..i put on a clean fresh bag..sure every thing was fresh and clean!!! It took me awhile to get used to everything I was constantly checking to see if you can see my bag sticking out and if I had any leaks but eventually I got used to it I mean I still check lol but I have more self confidence now then I did before and that's the best thing you could have !! I still have yet to find someone who will accept me and my little friend lol but I look at it like hey you had a life changing experience and possibly well in my case a life saving surgery and if u can't accept that then they aren't worth it !!